How the Church Can Support Foster Carers- Part 3
DISCLAIMER AND INFORMATION
All of the things I will be discussing in this series are from my own personal experiences and perspectives. I share examples and stories and so some details have been changed to provide necessary protection.
I think the hardest thing for people who don't foster is that the children aren't atypical children. Yes they deserve the same things.
This isn't their fault and isn't their responsibility.
It is the adults in their lives that have the duty to nurture and create an environment for positive experiences. Therefore you can not blame a child for having coping mechanisms which are difficult, for those on the outside, to understand.
What you can control is your reaction to them.
It is normal to be drawn to events and behaviours that require attention or intervention. And that is the carers responsibility. It is important to remember that to avoid making a situation worse that the event or upset is best to be managed by the carer in order to maintain consistency in the child's care and to avoid the child being further upset.
However natural it is to want to stare this is not helpful. It can make a tense situation even more stressful for the child and for the carer.
When events like these happen it is usual that the child is unable to return to a calm state and having people make a point of noticing the behaviour can escalate the situation.
The best thing you can do is to accept this as normal behaviour. You can offer your assistance to the carer and if he or she needs you then they will give you direction. If they say, 'no thank you,' then its best to leave them alone to work it out.
The Take Away
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